I know what you're thinking... because if you are a single, saved sista, you have thought about it at least one time in your life, what's wrong with me? Well this blog is not going to be a co-signer to your pity-party. I will let you know what is wrong with you.
Absolutely Nothing!
There is nothing wrong with you or me. You know why? Because we are are fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of the Only Living God.
Well since that is settled, let me introduce myself. My name is Kelli and this blog is going to channel the joys, frustrations, questions, and deep thoughts that come with being a saved, single beautiful sista, no matter what color, shape or size you are.
I had to start this blog because I have too many friends that fit the prototype of the saved, single sista and too often they get to that point where they ask themselves, what's wrong with me? I know, because I have been there. God has blessed me many different revelations regarding my single life and I hope to share them in this blog.
So today's topic is What's wrong with me? Well I already told you nothing, but let me explain.
So many times as a single person, you are asked why you are not married and people, (either well meaning or not), begin to dissect your life and ask you why you are the way you are.
As a single person, it is not only annoying but frustrating because people are asking you to explain your life to them, like you have to justify to them why you are single and that you are not crazy. They love to ask you questions that they or you probably do not have the answers to.
For example, here are a few of my choice favorites:
Why are you single?
Do you even want to get married?
What are you waiting for?
So you are really picky?
Are you focused on your career?
Again, these are just a few, but come on, what are we to say to those questions? How can you intelligently answer them? No answer will suffice. And nobody ever wants to hear the truth.
The worst part about it is no matter how confident and self-assured you are in Christ, once those questions are asked, the seeds of doubt begin to try to take root in your mind. You ask yourself, yeah, why am I single? Am I supposed to get married? Maybe I am too picky? Maybe I do work too much? And then finally, what's wrong with me?
Let me tell you sista, you are not alone in this battle. There are a few of us holding on to our faith and holding on to the Word that says, "Delight thyself also in the Lord: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Psalms 37:4.
Don't allow those doubts to take root in your heart. Stop them at the door. You have that authority. For 2 Corinthians 10:5 says, "Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ."
So cast down those thoughts, questions, and seeds that try to exalt themselves higher than what God's Word says: that it is not good for man to be alone and that two are better than one.
If you have a desire to be married, you will be married. God placed that desire within you. Don't doubt it, but you are going to have to use your faith.
So the next time someone asks you one of those annoying questions, turn it around on them. If they are single, ask them why they are single. If they are married, ask them why they are married. See how the person likes to have their life dissected.
Remember, that if you seek ye first the kingdom of God, everything else will be added unto you. So don't worry, it's gonna happen. It is inevitable. Stay strong and keep the faith.
I hope this has been an encouragement to you and please stay tuned to the next edition- -
Why We Settle?
